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Perfectionist | 完美主義的10個跡象

發布時間:2022-04-18 10:31:51 閱讀:16 作者:博遠教育 字數:2127 字 預計閱讀時間:5分鐘
導讀:完美主義者更像是有著高成就的人們,但也有一些關鍵的區別。以下是完美主義者的十個特征,你都可以從自己或你認識的人身上發現些特征。這些聽起來很耳熟呢?

完美主義被視為“苛刻的要求”。陷入其中的人容易衍生出各種心理問題,容易自責,被失敗和挫折打倒,感到消沉和自我價值薄弱。如果你也常對自己設定不切實際的高目標,或者潛意識覺得任何事情都是非黑即白,不易聽取別的意見,那么你就很可能陷入了非適應性完美主義。

今天的雙語短文向大家介紹完美主義者的10大特征,克服完美主義,尋找快樂成就感。

10 Perfectionist Traits 

10個完美主義特征

Perfectionists are a lot like high achievers, but with some key differences. The following are ten telltale traits of perfectionists, that you may be able to spot in yourself or in the people you know. Do any of these sound familiar?

完美主義者更像是有著高成就的人們,但也有一些關鍵的區別。以下是完美主義者的十個特征,你都可以從自己或你認識的人身上發現些特征。這些聽起來很耳熟呢?

1. All-or-Nothing Thinking

孤注一擲的思考

Perfectionists, like high achievers, tend to set high goals and work hard toward them. However, a high achiever can be satisfied with doing a great job and achieving excellence (or something close), even if their very high goals aren't completely met. Perfectionists will accept nothing less than perfection. "Almost perfect" is seen as failure.

完美主義者,就像高成就者一樣,傾向于設定高目標,并為之努力工作。然而,即使高成就者的高目標沒有完全實現,他們也可以滿足于出色的工作和取得卓越的成就(或類似的成就)。完美主義者則只接受完美。“近乎完美”被視為失敗。

2. Being Highly Critical

高度的批判性

Perfectionists are more critical of themselves and others than high achievers. While high achievers take pride in their accomplishments and tend to be supportive of others, perfectionists tend to spot mistakes and imperfections. They hone in on imperfections and have trouble seeing anything else. They’re more judgmental and hard on themselves and on others when "failure" does occur.

完美主義者比高成就者對自己和他人更挑剔。盡管成就高的人會為自己的成就感到自豪,并傾向于支持他人,但是完美主義者則傾向于發現錯誤和不完美。他們專注于不完美,很難看到其他的東西。當“失敗”真的發生時,他們對自己和他人更加苛刻。

3. Feeling Pushed by Fear

被恐懼引領

High achievers tend to be pulled toward their goals and by a desireto achieve them. They are happy with any steps made in the right direction. Perfectionists, on the other hand, tend to be pushed toward their goals by a fear of not reaching them and see anything less than a perfectly met goal as a failure.

取得高成就的人往往會被一種實現目標的欲望所驅使。他們對朝著正確方向邁出的任何一步都感到高興。相反,完美主義者往往會因為害怕無法實現目標而被推動去實現目標,他們認為任何不能完美實現的目標都是失敗。

Perfectionist

4. Having Unrealistic Standards

有著不切實際的標準

Unfortunately, a perfectionist's goals aren't always even reasonable. While high achievers can set their goals high, perhaps enjoying the fun of going a little further once goals are reached, perfectionists often set their initial goals out of reach.

不幸的是,完美主義者的目標并不總是合理的。盡管高成就者可以把目標定得高一些,也許是享受目標達成后走得更遠的樂趣,但是完美主義者往往把最初的目標設定得遙不可及。

High achievers tend to be happier and more successful than perfectionists in the pursuit of their goals.

在追求目標的過程中,高成就者往往比完美主義者更快樂、更成功。

5. Focusing Only on Results

只關注結果

High achievers can enjoy the process of chasing a goal as much or more than the actual reaching of the goal itself. Conversely, perfectionists see the goal and nothing else. They're so concerned about meeting the goal and avoiding the dreaded failure that they can't enjoy the process of growing and striving.

高成就的人在追求目標的過程中享受的樂趣,可能和實現目標本身一樣多,甚至更多。相反,完美主義者只看到目標,別的什么都看不到。他們太在意實現目標和避免可怕的失敗,以至于他們不能享受成長和奮斗的過程。

6. Feeling Depressed by Unmet Goals

對未完成的目標感到沮喪

Perfectionists are much less happy and easygoing than high achievers. While high achievers are able to bounce back fairly easily from disappointment, perfectionists tend to beat themselves up much more and wallow in negative feelings when their high expectations go unmet.

完美主義者遠遠沒有高成就者那么多快樂和隨和。盡管高成就者可以從失望中恢復過來,但是完美主義者在他們的高期望沒有達到時,往往會把自己打得更慘,陷入消極情緒中。

7. Fear of Failure 

恐懼失敗

Perfectionists are also much more afraid to fail than are high achievers. Because they place so much stock in results and become so disappointed by anything less than perfection, failure becomes a very scary prospect. And, since anything less than perfection is seen as a failure, it makes it difficult to get started on anything new.

完美主義者也比高成就者更加害怕失敗。因為他們對結果有足夠的信心,對任何不完美的事情都感到失望,失敗變成了一個非??膳碌那熬?。而且因為任何不完美的事情都會被視為失敗,這會讓你很難開始做任何新的事情。

拖延癥

8. Procrastination

拖延癥

It seems paradoxical that perfectionists would be prone to procrastination, as that trait can be detrimental to productivity, but perfectionism and procrastination do tend to go hand in hand. This is because, fearing failure as they do, perfectionists will sometimes worry so much about doing something imperfectly that they become immobilized and fail to do anything at all.

完美主義者傾向于拖延,這似乎是矛盾的,因為這種特質可能不利于生產力,但完美主義和拖延癥確實往往是攜手并進的。這是因為,由于他們害怕失敗,完美主義者有時會過分擔心做某事不完美,以至于他們變得行動遲緩,什么都做不成。

Procrastination can lead to greater feelings of failure, further perpetuating a vicious and paralyzing cycle.

拖延癥會導致更強烈的失敗感,進一步形成惡性循環。

9. Defensiveness

防御性

Because a less-than-perfect performance is so painful and scary to perfectionists, they tend to take constructive criticism defensively. This makes them different from high achievers who can see criticism as valuable information to help their future performance.

由于不完美的表現對完美主義者來說是如此痛苦和可怕,他們傾向于以防御性的方式接受建設性的批評。這使他們不同于高成就者,后者將批評視為有助于未來表現的寶貴信息。

10. Low Self-Esteem

自尊心低

High achievers tend to have equally high esteem; not so with perfectionists. Perfectionists tend to be very self-critical and unhappy and suffer from low self-esteem. They can also be lonely or isolated as their critical nature and rigidity can push others away as well. This can lead to lower self-esteem.

高成就的人往往有同樣高的自尊;完美主義者則不然。完美主義者往往非常自我批評,不快樂,自尊心低下。他們也可能是孤獨或孤立的,因為他們批判性的本性和僵化也會把別人推開。這可能會導致自尊心下降。

Summary

總結

Healthy perfectionism can drive people to perform their best, but unhealthy perfectionism can lead to stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, and other problems that can affect your quality of life. Perfectionists are often critical, driven by fear, have unrealistic expectations, fear failure, and are defensive when they face any criticism.

健康的完美主義可以驅使人們表現得最好,但不健康的完美主義會導致壓力、焦慮、自卑和其他影響你生活質量的問題。完美主義者通常是挑剔的,受恐懼的驅使,有不切實際的期望,害怕失敗,并且在面對任何批評時都是防御性的。

A Word From Verywell

健康小提示

If you see some of these perfectionist traits in yourself, don't despair. Recognizing that a change may be needed is a very important first step. Once you recognize how these tendencies might be affecting you negatively, you can begin working toward taking a healthier approach that will still allow you to achieve your goals with less stress and negativity.

如果你在自己身上看到這些完美主義的特質,不要絕望。認識到可能需要改變是非常重要的第一步。一旦你意識到這些傾向可能會對你產生負面影響,你就可以開始采取一種更健康的方式,讓你在更少的壓力和消極的情況下實現目標。

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